so. I went to get probiotics today at good earth here in provo. WORST EXPERIENCE EVER. Here is what happened. I walked in and asked where their probiotics were. They showed me to a wellness counselor who could help me. She was an older lady, maybe in her late 50's. I told her I needed power, dairy free. She showed me where it was and I told her Thank you. I asked her how to use it and how often and how much and whatnot. She said "just follow the directions." um.. ok, but on the directions it doesnt say how often to do it. She never answered that question. I told her I appreciated her showing me where it was, and that I was excited to use it because I had a bunch of friends who swear by it. She then proceeded to tell me how it has 'flora' in it, which you can't get if your baby is delivered via c-section, and that only the vaginal way is the most natural way and most beneficial to the baby.. um ok. I then told her "this is our last resort- she's had so many tummy issues, poor baby! we are taking her to a GI specialist in two weeks.." and then she interrupted me and said "do NOT let him do anything or give her anything." I then said "well, we have to get this figured out. I had to stop breastfeeding (she gasped) and we've tried reflux medicine, and we are on a really expensive great formula (gasped again). She looked at me like I was the worst mom in the world, and then said "Well- thats where you went wrong. You shouldn't have stopped breastfeeding. Thats what she needs!" (as she is shaking her head in disbelief, no joke.) It made me SO mad- I said "Well, I did what I thought was best for my daughter and she seems to be happier on formula and because of her lactose sensitivity I don't feel guilty for stopping and doing whats best for her. Thanks for your help." then I walked away. I wanted to punch her in the face. WHY do people think its breastfeed or die?! Thanks for making me feel like a crappy mom lady.
And don't worry, I cried when I got in the car. The funny thing is people judge when they dont know the whole situation- for instance, my milk supply was basically gone anyway, so she needed to be supplemented anyway. There wasn't much I could have done about that. And I breastfed for 4 months, that was a good try. I do not feel guilty for stopping, but In that instance, it brought back all the saddness and worries I had at the time for stopping and wondering how I would be judged or if it was the right thing to do. I KNOW it was the right thing for us, but it was not her right to tell me that I shouldn't have stopped breastfeeding! I called the manager in tears when I got home and told her I thought it was completely inappropriate that the lady was that opinionated and rude to me about that sensitive subject. The manager was so nice about it and told me she was going to do everything in her power to make this right for me. I was just so mad, I hate how judgy women are and how they think breastfeeding is liquid gold and how it's the only thing that makes your kid smart and how your kid will be sick the rest of their life if they weren't breastfed.. I want people who think that way to be punched in the face. There. I said it.
And dont get me wrong, breastfeeding is wonderful, and if it would have worked out better for us I would have loved to keep going, but NO ONE is going to make me feel guilty for quitting!